here’s the plan: don’t have one 

“you’re not in your early 20’s unless you have an existential crisis every week.” 

Life is so crazy.

One minute you’ve got a plan and the next you’re re-evaluating every life choice thinking what do I do now? Nobody told me that post-grad blues and anxiety were so real.

It all stems from the pressure I put on myself to be someone. To become the best I can be and knowing that my decisions in this moment will define that. Deep down I know that I’m scared that I’ll miss my shot because I didn’t make the right decisions or do the right things to get me there. Sometimes I don’t even know where to start and it stresses me out. Kind of like a cycle that keeps going and going and going…

But life has completely flipped on me lately. Things haven’t exactly worked out like I had planned and I’ve been forced to just let it all go and go with the flow.

Let go and let God.

And it is well…crazy. Sometimes I’ll freak out because I feel so lost but then I remember I’m doing the best that I can. I remember that everything happens for a reason. Following my heart and just doing without a plan, without fear of what “they” will say, without fear of messing it all up. I just do. No more worrying about where “I’m supposed to be” and just being grateful that I’m here right now.

That being said, here is what you should plan for:

More love. More ice cream. More puppy belly rubs. Concerts with your best friends. Posting whatever you want. Midnight drives to get food. Vacations. Friendsgivings. Drowning in self-love. Doing good. Wearing whatever you want. Deep belly laughs. Dancing in your room. Cutting the roots of self-doubt. Late night talks. Treating your self. Writing in the margins of your favorite book. Wine nights with the girls. Beer runs with the guys. Breakfast in bed. Breakfast for dinner. Drives with the sunroof open. More dreaming. More doing. More living.

Take all of the little rules and things you think you can’t do and tear them up. Do them. Don’t waste another second doing something you don’t like. Continue to be good and do good, even if the world doesn’t return the favor. The universe doesn’t owe you anything but that doesn’t mean we should stop being good.

Do more things that make you happy, do what you can, and everything else will fall into place.

14 thoughts on “here’s the plan: don’t have one 

  1. Love that last line. I’ve found it so true. I’ve had a quarter-life crisis and an identity crisis and many existential crises and then I keep coming back to just do what you love to find yourself again and trust that God will use it to help others and glorify him.

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    1. Wow thank you for saying that and I agree. It can be hard sometimes, especially writing this out and being so vulnerable with it, but then people like you share their experience and it makes it worthwhile. And makes me feel a little less alone. Thanks for taking the time to read this 😊


  2. This positivity is such a vibrant message. Leaving college and being pressured to start “adulting” can allow us to forget breakfast with dinner and to laugh until we get stomach aches. Everything will always fall into place. ❤️

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  3. I truly enjoyed reading this Sam. While it didn’t apply to me when I was in my 20’s, you better believe it will apply to me as I turn 50! Enjoy today because tomorrow is not promised! I love your mindset- I wish I had gotten my education sooner so I could have done so many more fun things. Instead I had babies; and tried to be a fun mom. Freddie, Alyssa and I love the true genuine lady that you are; don’t ever change that. You’ll always have a special place in my little families hearts! ❤️

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    1. You are pretty dang awesome to me! And doing it that way worked out amazing!! You gave me a best friend and sister all in one. It all worked out perfectly and I’m so happy to have y’all in my life 🙂


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